Adult Life Struggles

Ok guys. Real talk. How the hell are you supposed to make friends as an adult?!? I can’t be the only one struggling to figure this out.

Now I’m sure that my social anxiety doesn’t help me here. But I’m nearly 30 and I am yet to figure this out!

When we were younger we made friends who went to the same school as us. Or who were involved in the same after school activities. But here’s the thing, as a self employed adult who rides horses… that means my choices are pretty slim pickings.

My barn is primarily filled with very nice, but very young kids. By this point in most adult riders lives they are “taking a break” to raise a family. But that’s not me. And I’m sorry, you’re super sweet kid, but I’m not hanging out with 13 year olds. That’s weird. I’m almost old enough to be their moms. I’m not going to be their buddy. That’s weird.

And people love to ask, so what do you do when you aren’t riding? Ummm sleeping? Working? That’s about all I do. So where do I make friends?

I actually may have made my first EVER adult friend!! But I think I might have cheated? It’s my massage therapist… is that weird? She’s practically seen me naked. But whatever.


Catfishing Mom

So the oddest thing happened to me over the weekend.

I was sitting at the Raleigh Indoor watching the Derby when my phone buzzed. I looked down to see a friend request…. From my MOM. I called my dad immediately, he told me that he wasn’t sure what was going on but he would look into it.

In the mean time, I get a message from the fake profile:

Joyce: Hello. How are you doing?

Me: Fine.

Joyce: Have you heard about New USA Funding?

Me: Thanks for pretending to be my mom.

Joyce: Sorry. .just to make something… Can you give me more details about your mom?

Me: Yep, reporting you to Facebook Delete the account!

Account disappeared. Now, the person could have simply blocked me or they could have actually deleted the account. But man that’s a gutsy move. I call you out on it and instead of just disappearing you decide to go with “Can you help me deceive you’re mom’s friends and family” route.

And I wish that this was the end of the story. But of course it isn’t. Mom has been freaking out about being “hacked” for a couple days now. I have no clue what to tell her. First off, she wasn’t really hacked. She was used for someone to try to Catfish people. It was probably a decent cover, a teacher who touched so many young lives. They could friend so many people in our city and they wouldn’t even know the difference.

But really, do these scum bags have nothing better to do than find an older woman to pretend to be? You don’t know her life. You don’t know the struggeles she goes through every single day. You don’t know the stress it causes normal people, let along a woman with Alzheimer’s and Cancer. She is now confused. Did she accidentally do this and not remember? Did make this happen? How did this happen? And round and round we go.

I love my mom. I hate to see her struggle. So this is just a little food for thought, this stuff all affects someone. This time it just so happened to affect someone I love. So I’m writing about it. I just feel awful for my mom right now.


Sleepless in Raleigh

So tired, yet sleep will never come. Got to love that insomnia. It’s 4:30 am and my body has zero interest in shutting down. I don’t know that I would mind so much if I was at home. But of course not, I’m at a horse show. I have to be up and checked out of my hotel in the morning… And I have a 3.5 hour drive back to the barn, then an additional 45 mins home. Doesn’t look like sleep will be my friend this weekend.

Do any of you suffer from insomnia? I have tried just about everything. My doctor has me on Ambien. I’ve tried exercise, massage, mediation… I even purchased a weighted blanket which is supposed to help for people with anxiety (check), ADHD (check), insomnia (major check). I will say that the weighted blanket really does seem to help. I like it a lot, however it’s a bit of a pain toting it around with me to horse shows and what not. But worth it.

Do any of you have something you’ve found that works well for you? I’m always looking for quality suggestions.

You would think that after horse showing all day and being exhausted it would be so easy to lay down and go to sleep. But it never is. Even ager I take my migraine pill (thanks to my lack of hydration throughout the day leading to a migraine) which has a side effect of drowsiness… And my Ambien. NOTHING. Even with my weighted blanket. So here I am at 4:30 am just trying to reach out to other people who deal with this mess. Anyone have any ideas?

Thanks in Advance ~

Buzzy Bee

For What It’s Worth…

Here’s a little bit of opinion, take it or leave it.

I want to start posting opinion pieces for a while. I know, opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. So I figure, maybe my opinion might be the same (or close to the same) as yours. Maybe that could make us all feel just a little bit less alone. If not, keep checking back, because odds are I’ll weigh in on something you really care about sooner or later!

So, I guess here it goes… The first time… I’m a little nervous.

I was lucky enough to be one of the few people to get to see “Beauty and the Beast” on it’s opening night. I wasn’t lucky enough to be at one of the big events. But nevertheless it was a dream come true to see my favorite Little Hermione become my favorite little Belle.

Now, Let’s just hit the ground running. Let’s talk about Josh Gad. If you ask me (which I know you didn’t) I don’t think that there is any stretch that LeFou was gay. If you find your way back to the original movie, you might notice that LeFou was questionable at best. I think that LeFou makes a pretty amazing journey throughout this film that deserves to be seen. Josh Gad is a wonderfully comedic actor who brought LeFou to life in one of the truest ways imaginable. I can’t imagine LeFou being played any other way than this. So I guess, if you have a problem with LeFou being who he is… go see is and see if you still feel that way.

I was blown away by this adaptation of my very favorite childhood movie. I was a little concerned that even with the all star cast it might fall flat. I thought Emma Watson was delightful and Dan Stevens somehow managed to make the Beast sexy. He brought charm and fun to an otherwise dark character.

With that being said, I want to touch on some of the original loop holes.

  • Can we all acknowledge that in the original, Prince Adam was 11 when he was cursed. What 11 year old isn’t a little bit of a punk?
  • Why would everyone stay with the Prince after his transformation?
  • How did this even happen? Where were his parents? Why was no one raising him to be a better person?
  • How is it possible for him to not tell  every person there “Hey man, stop calling me beast! It’s offensive! I have a name. Call me Adam!”
  • Why does LeFou always follow along with Gaston?

There are so many more, I know it. But it’s late, and I’m tired. The bright side is that several of the loop holes get filled in! I’m pretty happy with the movie overall. I felt like it took care of the issues from the original. But still stayed so true to the story. I enjoyed it so much, I’m likely to see it again this weekend!